There’s a moment — sometimes quiet, sometimes disruptive — when you realize? your life has been guided by invisible rules you never agreed to.
Rules like:
- “I have to earn love by pleasing everyone.”
- “I can’t rest until everything is perfect.”
- “If I don’t stay small, I’ll be rejected.”
These internalized rules?aren’t true. But they’ve become part of the nervous system’s survival strategy — so they?feel?true. And until they’re questioned, they quietly shape your identity, choices, and relationships.
They’re often formed in?childhood?or reinforced through?trauma, and they continue to operate quietly in the background —?unless we choose to wake up to them.
And when you do, you begin to hear another voice. A quieter one. A truer one.
It might say:
“There’s more to me than this protective identity.”
“Maybe I don’t need to fix myself to be worthy.”
“What if I could live from wholeness instead of fear?”
It can be ideas and thoughts you have about yourself. It can be all representative thinking that you have that are no longer based on the current reality. And so, you actually need to evaluate yourself. Now, in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) we have this idea of seven plus minus two bits of information per second. So, if you’re going to make changes in your lifelike say for example in relationships, right? Uh, using it as an example, you can have seven plus minus two slots on the types of relationships you have.
If you have limiting relationships and you want to change them, the first thing you have to do is you have to end those limiting relationships before you can start new relationships because you only have that many slots in your life. So, if that seems a bit hard for you to, again, then I going talk about a lady and a closet, you may have seven plus minus two hangers in your closet. You have to throw away your old clothes before you can buy new clothes. And this one, I think many ladies really understand with me.
So why is this important me evaluate phase of your life? The evaluate phase of designing your life is so crucial. If you don’t do a thorough job here, then later on other pieces, other things are going to come up and it’s going to get really difficult to move on.
So the first issue is become clear about the priority in your life. What is the most important priority you right now in your life? And what will this priority and, and pick a priority that is going to be important enough for the next 12 months to at least 24 or maybe 36 months.
So you’re going to use that priority and you’re going to use that priority to design the rest of your life. Only when you’re successfully use that priority and you have a kind of, you know, design your life and you know what’s working and what’s not working, then you decide to go and do other things.
Now, when I am teaching my clients about these ideas, one of the crucial distinctions that came up for me was that many people do not understand the power of having habits and becoming aware of them. And this idea that you can use your willpower to do anything you want in your life when actually, willpower is actually very, very limited because of our psyche and the way our brain is designed. So let illustrate this concept. If you’re going to go into the supermarket to shop for food and buy food back, it’s only safe to do it after you have eaten a full meal.
Otherwise, when you go into the supermarket, everything will look attractive. So now you’re looking at the power of willpower. So if you’re hunting and you go into a supermarket, you will have to use willpower and knowledge to decide what to buy and what not to buy. The moment you have satisfied your hunger, then when you go into the supermarket, you will go back to a habitual way of picking items that you need for your week or your next few days for cooking and what have you.
The basis for evaluation what matters about your life is getting straight about your priority in a neutral environment.
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Yours in Health,
Prof. Sundardas D Annamalay